Stereotypes

There are few words I hate so much, one such a word is "Stereotypes". Its fine to generalize and make assumptions on things and working methodologies but not about people. Its tough being a girl in India. The society forces so many rules on people. If we want to maintain a good image then we better follow the herd. This is such an emotional stress. Our heart desires for one thing and longs for it but the society calls it wrong. Mind you none of those desires might be legal but out of the society norms. The following are the top in the list of stereotypes that annoy me the most. I know that most people share that same emotions with me. So lets start :)

• Most people in Tamil Nadu think that Engineering is a must have degree. Throw a stone at some one and he/she is most probable an engineer. Other courses have taken a back seat and is looked down upon,  sparing medicine. This is a myth. Engineering is not for all. Most people as crazy enough to pay upto 10-15 lakhs as donation alone. Fee after that. Sounds lame to me. The ROI is really bad. The funniest part is some seats are left untaken each year yet people pay for the best colleges. I can promise that a student from Loyola or Ethiraj has more skill and exposure than most other run in the mill engineers. Grow up guys. Don't stuff your dreams into life of your children.
• A good child(read as girl child) must know how to run a house by the time her teen ends. Who brought this rule anyway? The society must start seeing men and women as peers and equals. If a boy is a very good cook and wants to become a chef just let him follow his heart. If a girl thinks that she wants to fly planes then let her become a pilot. Let ability and not gender decide ones profession.There are many banks that give loans for education. I think the students must keep faith in their faith and follow their dream. Girls are not meant to do only girl things and boys for the boy things. There can be a reversal of roles if the person involved desires.
• Another thing is how people judge others. Gregarious or people who act so score more points. These merry making people might mostly be fare weather friends. But no one bothers to look within. Within the noise that a person makes or does not make. This is more stupid than love at first sight. I mean stop judging people with how the speak. Most people out there are liars. Just cause the say "Vanga" (Come) to guests does not mean they are happy with their arrival. People wear masks and hide behind pleasantries  People get up and smell the roses and the cow shit too...
• People who score the most are those who give up. I agree give and take is a part of live. I would love to help my friends and family but not by constantly torturing myself. We all love to get things. Cross your heart people. Accept it. We all love to get things and give things to people who we love. Should one always sacrifices ones desire to make others happy. This sounds lame to me. I am not saying be all selfish. Just that respect yourself. Give time and attention for ones own love desire and hobby. That makes us happy. Happy us by itself is a gift to others. Trust me start loving yourself and others. Self indulgence is not wrong.
• Business is a big no no in may south India societies. I dunno what it is. Worst case the person might end up broke. So what. We can learn the risk taking ability from the Americans. So what if the business flops we can figure out something. Better to have owned an company and lost than to have been a sad employee through ones life. If we cannot encourage lets not pull them down. Let them soar high in the skies. I personally think that those people who discourage the modern day entrepreneurs are secretively jealous. 
• Last but not the least judging a person by the way he spends. Spending not always proportional to earning capacity. People who flaunt their wealth are assumed to be rich. But they might be under heavy debt.
• Oh yeah I forgot love marriage! Oh my god its a holy sin :P Never ever get married to the right person for you. They love to see and talk about dysfunctional weddings and that comes only through arranged weddings.

There are so many issues we all face in our day today life. The most successful people today are those who broke the stereotypes. Who dared to walk on un treaded paths and did things that others thought as unholy. So go break those stereotypes.